As we celebrate Women’s History Month, it is an opportunity to reflect and
remember our own women ancestors—great-grandmothers, grandmothers, mothers,
and aunts–and the lessons they provided us, both women and men alike. What did they
teach us about consideration for others’ well-being? How did they quietly bring about
change on behalf of others that was values-based? My grandmother and mother were
stalwart when it came to relationships and how to look out for other family members,
elders at school and in the community, and our own self-respect. They were very clear
about “good” and “bad” behavior. This included how we spoke to one another, the
decisions made that perhaps were not well thought out, and how we dealt with our
insecurities and uncertainties. My ancestors were wise women, ahead of their time, and
in many instances, they were also mentors.
In our hectic world of work, decisions under pressure have to be made, conflicts
with team members have to be resolved, and emotions are stirred that may not have
easy outlets. Advice often given is to take deep breaths, step away from the tense
climate, and recalibrate. All of this is reasonable advice. At the same time, are there
examples of wisdom we can call upon? What would my grandmother have suggested or
done?
Throughout my childhood and teenage years, my mother told us that homework
came first. She was into our academic performance and knew that this would benefit us.
We sat at the kitchen table from 3-5 pm, completing our assignments. Although she
never went to high school, my mother and my maternal grandmother (who was
illiterate) knew the importance for women to be educated. They always reminded me
that taking care of myself was an important goal. Their lessons were not lost on me.
Throughout my career, I have prioritized my work life over my social life and have felt
the fulfillment of accomplishing what I set out to do.
Take a few minutes to think about your women ancestors. What was special
about them? What advice would they give you about your frenzied life? Leadership
books do not always have the answers. Instead, look closer to home, to the wisdom of your ancestors. Please share your stories in the Comment section—and thank you!.
This way, can learn from one another.